Conflicted Exxistence
The stories told in “No Safe Word” aren’t just strange or entertaining anecdotes, they are representations of real people’s search for acceptance. No matter how strange they may seem to us on the outside, we all know from whence they come: our deepest, most vulnerable beating hearts. … Continue readingNo Safe Word: kinky nude dance performance art f*cking awesomeness
I counseled someone who wrote to me terrified that she might be incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure. I gave her a whole list of possible reasons for her problem, ranging from medical issues to fetishes to anatomical differences, and I pointed out some paths for exploring in the hopes of remedying the situation. … Continue readingLuna Luna: When Pleasure Is Elusive… Or Nonexistent
And so it’s with a heavy heart, but with much hope, that I’m announcing my cutback on blogging for 2015. … Continue readingScaling Back: goals for blogging in 2015
I was sitting here in my room trying to meditate and set my intentions for the coming year, like a good new age hippie witch type, and this guy decided
Continue readingBring it, 2015: some things I’d like to do this year
The past few weeks I’ve been absolutely overwhelmed by all of the stuff that’s pertinent to this blog, and that’s a great thing! There are a lot of very public conversations going on about things that are important to me, mostly in the arena of sex-positivity, body-positivity, street harassment, and feminism in general. Hooray! … Continue readingMid-Week Musings: feminist sci-fi, new music videos, toplessness, and Nina Hartley
She continued walking around her apartment for a good twenty minutes in various states of undress…I was mesmerized the entire time. I let myself think that she had seen me watching her, and it’s entirely possible that she did, at some point…But… I don’t have her explicit consent, you guys! Am I being a bad feminist? … Continue readingMy New Neighbor (likes to be naked by her window, and I’m conflicted about it)
Sometimes we don’t care if our appearance is acceptable to you. Sometimes we just want to be left alone. And that does not make us “bitchy.” … Continue readingPre-Halloween Ponderings on Humpday
A few big pop culture items have crossed my radar this week, which is remarkable given that I’ve been sick and grumpy and menstruating and it’s cold and rainy outside.
Continue readingQuick Thoughts on Pop Culture from Your Grumpy Neighborhood Feminist
What is it that makes the display of the female body for consumption permissible, so long as nipples and pubic hair are not specifically shown? Why is it that women’s bodies can be sexual, so long as they’re never shown actually having sex? Why can’t we own our bodies and do what we want to with them, instead of having some artist or publisher or consumer tell us what’s ok? … Continue readingNew York Comic Con: Post 2 — Boobs are OK, but not BOOBS
I’d like to think this guy recognized me from my feminist blogging online persona, but something about his behavior makes me think he was just too much of a creep to enjoy taking permission-granted photos of cosplayers. I think he got a thrill out of taking unwitting, non-consensual photos of con attendees who weren’t in costume. Because that’s more of a thrill. I think I was one of them. I think I am creeped out. … Continue readingI Went to New York Comic Con, and All I Got Were These Observations