AVN Awards 2014: some thoughts

January 20, 2014 | 0 Comments

The 31st annual AVN Awards were held this past weekend in Las Vegas to honor the work of the porn industry over the past year, and I want to talk about it. Mostly I’m jealous that I didn’t go to AVN this year, because as I’ve said before, nobody pays me for my expert porn journalism work [...continue...]

Using My Brain While Menstruating

January 17, 2014 | 0 Comments

I am sitting here in front of my computer and my brain is telling me I should be blogging. I have been staring at the screen for a while, telling myself I’m certain I have something–SOMETHING–to type about. And I do have somethings. They’re in there. They flit across my [...continue...]

Suck My…

December 13, 2013 | 0 Comments

Bonus points if you get this reference. This morning, in the subway station, there was a man yelling at everybody. He looked middle-aged, not in any way unkempt, except that the windchill was around 10 degrees Farenheit and he was in a sweater with no jacket. He had a graying beard. He was taking [...continue...]

Saving Porn

December 6, 2013 | 0 Comments

I’ve talked to a lot of people about how they consume pornography. The conversations usually start out slow, then lengthen and deepen until I find people talking about truths that they have never spoken of, sometimes never even consciously confronted. It can be an awakening, an epiphany. Or [...continue...]

Do Women Jill Off to Romance Novels?

October 28, 2013 | 2 Comments

I was lying in bed this morning resisting my body’s recommendation that I get up, and thinking about stuff. Somehow the topic of romance novels vs. porn occurred to me. People are often asking me what I think about the fact that women so often eschew video pornography in favor of written [...continue...]

Burqas on Bushwick

October 18, 2013 | 0 Comments

As I walked home from the subway last night, a group of women in burqas floated down the sidewalk across the street. They spoke quietly amongst themselves–I could not hear their words. I could not see their hands or their feet. What kind of shoes are they wearing? I wondered. I tried not to [...continue...]


October 4, 2013 | 0 Comments

I’m so upset right now. I marched straight home and fired up my laptop and now I’m sitting in front of it and I don’t know where to start. This is despicable. I just got back to my apartment after taking the subway home, like I always do. As I walked down a busy street away from [...continue...]

Missing Exxxotica

October 4, 2013 | 0 Comments

I’m sad to report that I will not be attending the Exxxotica adult industry trade expo in Edison, NJ this year. This will be the first time since 2008 or 2009 that I’m not going. I don’t even remember. It’s been part of my life for a long time. Part of the reason is that it [...continue...]

When I Get Bored I Write a Lot

September 17, 2013 | 0 Comments

…but not here, apparently. I’ve been feeling a little in-between big projects lately–waiting for the green light/contract on one, pitching another and getting radio silence in return, tapping my feet while the artist finishes up some work on a third, and too nervous about the [...continue...]
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