Tag: difficult
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Chronic Pain and Sex
Even though I’m used to this, getting out of bed today was tough enough. The idea of trying to “be sexy” for my partner while my joints are trying to stop me from moving through any means necessary? Almost unimaginable.
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The Reddit Rape Thread: some thoughts from a victim
I was gonna do what I usually do and post some image I find on Google Images on the topic of silence about rape. I even Google Image searched “silence about rape” and found some powerful images. But I decided, instead, to post a picture of myself. Because guess what, world: I’ve been raped. And…
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The Sisyphus Complex in Sex-Positivity
I had a friend ask me, “Do you still care about that stuff?” recently when I posted a link to a slut-shaming article. My first response was indignance—of course I still care about this stuff. I’m a woman. This happens all the time, and so many people shrug it off as small-mindedness or “just the…
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Consent in Porn: Sobriety on Set
Let’s talk about something really important, everybody. Let’s talk about performer consent in porn. This is a topic that I’ve brought up here and there, but that I’ve largely avoided a frank blog post or column about because, to be honest, it scares me. The lines around what works as consent in my mind (the…
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The Not-Doctor Is In: How to Become a Male Porn Star
Once again, Twitter has provided a question for Dr. Lags, Sexpert, to answer. I’ve done the best I can, but I’m sure the guy can use advice from those who know more than lil’ ol’ me in the comments section! Dear Dr. Lags: Any advice on how to start in the industry as a male…