Musings

Photo by Shane Velazquez I’m not going to tell you in my own words why you need to read the interview I did with Arrie Davidson, aka Faux Pas le Fae, about her new show, “No Safe Word,” debuting tomorrow night at Dixon Place. The show is a sort of movement-based performance that [...continue...]

I'm serious. Please answer this. [...continue...]

Lunch meat--much like sexism--is a tradition that is bad for everyone, but which is considered totally acceptable because it's so normal. [...continue...]

I am far from perfect now, and I know that even with how far I've come in the past eight years, I still have very far to go. I know I'll never achieve perfection in my worldview, my ability to articulate my thoughts, my activism. But that's kind of the point, isn't it? [...continue...]

…where the ups and downs are so far apart that swinging between them feels like flying? Or falling? I am [...continue...]

In this context, the consumption of pornography is a shared experience about which we have different feelings and reactions. Porn becomes a text for criticizing or enjoying, just like any other form of media. [...continue...]

The stories told in "No Safe Word" aren't just strange or entertaining anecdotes, they are representations of real people's search for acceptance. No matter how strange they may seem to us on the outside, we all know from whence they come: our deepest, most vulnerable beating hearts. [...continue...]

I counseled someone who wrote to me terrified that she might be incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure. I gave her a whole list of possible reasons for her problem, ranging from medical issues to fetishes to anatomical differences, and I pointed out some paths for exploring in the hopes of remedying the situation. [...continue...]

And so it's with a heavy heart, but with much hope, that I'm announcing my cutback on blogging for 2015. [...continue...]

I was sitting here in my room trying to meditate and set my intentions for the coming year, like a good new age hippie witch type, and this guy decided that he really needed to park his Hyundai sedan (I know, right?) out in front of my building and open the doors and play obnoxious music really [...continue...]