conflicted existence

Column debuting soon on a big-deal website. Book negotiations underway. Big stuff people. That is [...continue...]

So I’ve been in the process of getting my site rebuilt for the past several months with this totally smegging excellent website guy Jesse (at rhymeswithchaos.com, check him out y’all). This week is dedicated to getting all the nitty gritty worked out, so chances are I won’t be [...continue...]

Another goal for 2014: more of this. From me, in conversation and writing. Feminism isn’t just about women, it’s about equality and compassion for every person. We can’t afford to leave anyone [...continue...]

Well the federal government is effectively shut down as of today. In my mind this calls for some crazy-ass parties. Alas, it’s a Tuesday, and I have work tomorrow. So I’ll put my party-pants on hold till Friday comes around. But until then, hey check these out: Joy Martin-Malone points [...continue...]

Image via weheartit.com It’s really easy to despair right now. The Zimmerman acquittal has sparked so much pain across America, raised again the reality of race, inequality, and power in our country. Watching the protests unfold has gotten me choked up and angry. I don’t know what I [...continue...]

For my introverted, homebody ladies-who-like-to-bate everywhere: Sarah Silverman breaks down The Perfect Night. (Hint: it involves a [...continue...]

So delightfully bizarre. Perfect for a Sunday. Enjoy Isabella Rosellini’s “Green Porno,” about sex and species. Barnacle penises! Freaky fish! Discombobulated phalluses! Sexy squid! Duck [...continue...]

About three years ago, I got in touch with a porn crush of mine: the super handsome and very sexy James Darling, then a budding new star on the queer porn scene. I sent him some interview questions, but James got super-busy being super-awesome and getting more famous, and didn’t have time to [...continue...]

I am too burned out for writing at the moment, you guys, but in the meantime, here are some fun links for your perusal! 1) A profile of Axel Braun/article on Buzzfeed about the burgeoning superhero porn parody genre. An interesting read for those curious about how and by whom these wacky wank films [...continue...]

READ THIS. It’s about porn addiction. And how it’s not a thing. Oh. YEAH. Thank you thank you thank you, science, for saying this shit! Now granted, this was written by the same guy who wrote The Myth of Sex Addiction, a book which makes a lot of good points but gets quite mired down in [...continue...]