Category: Rants
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He Knew It Was Creepy… and he still harassed me
Let me reiterate. He knew it was creepy and he still felt ok harassing me, in broad daylight, in full view of dozens of people, for no reason and with no expectation of any significant payoff. Just because he could.
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Christy Mack: Thoughts And Upsetness and Bravery
I am grateful to Christy Mack for having the courage to speak up and bravely show photos of the results of her assault–so often these kinds of domestic attacks happen in the shadows. Women, and all victims of abuse, are often afraid to speak up or have been convinced by the world that it is…
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I’m Back! And the World is a Mess!
So I went to Montana for ten days. It was amazing. I had a blast. And my tablet screen broke so I couldn’t use it at all, and I had zero cell reception and only the spottiest WiFi capabilities, so I was pretty much incommunicado the entire time. I didn’t even realize taht there were…
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Consent, Mistakes, and Ripples: reflections on a mess
Things that happen in the past can and do send ripples into our futures and the futures of other people over which we simply do not have control.
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Evolve’s Sex-Toy Commercial Isn’t Very Evolved About Sex
Sex toys are good for the world. Guns kill things.
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We Need to Stop Silencing Sexual Assault Victims, Already: A Rant
Please bear with me. I’m having a very large brainstorm and I’m not sure yet if all the loose ends actually tie together. I’m going to try to make sense of all this as I write, because my head and my heart are bursting and I need to get this all written down. I read…
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Silencing and Sexual Shame and Monsters
I won’t go into detail here about what exactly happened to me last weekend. I don’t want to make the person involved feel bad, should that person come across this blog post. But the long and short of it is that I was shown, in very blatant terms, a manifestation of extreme sexual shame on…
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FPCon Thoughts 1: Money and Sustainability
Last weekend I attended the 2nd annual Feminist Porn Conference at the University of Toronto, in conjunction with the 9th annual Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards. The weekend was a three-day marathon of excitement over seeing familiar faces, meeting new people in the community, celebrating the phenomenon of feminist pornography, and being absolutely inundated…
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Belle Knox Being Smart Is Actually Pretty Normal, and Oh, by the Way, GET OVER the Porn vs. Feminism Issue Already!
I’m so happy to see that Belle Knox is going way public about her choice of career, and defending herself eloquently in print and on television. I’m so glad there’s been a lot of support for her (alongside all the endless bashing) on the internet. And I’m so gratified–this is a bit trickier to explain–that…
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“You MUST Have Been ______ as a Child”: or, you know what they say about assuming
When I read Erica Garza’s article on Salon, “Tales of a female sex addict,” I was immensely proud to call myself a colleague of hers (we both write for Luna Luna Magazine). This might be the only piece I’ve ever read from the point of view of somebody who had an unhealthy and addictive relationship…