I am once again pressed for time, as today is one of those running-around, never-enough-time days, but I’ve been busy researching some queer POV porn for an article, and I’ve been thinking about how interesting it is that so much queer, particularly ciswoman porn involves really sloppy, deep-throaty, slobbery, mucousy, hardcore blowjobs, very often on strap-on cocks. On the one hand, this is a surprising phenomenon. I mean, who out there who knows about porn and calls herself a feminist hasn’t given considerable time to thinking and bitching about the mainstream straight porn blowjob? It’s easily seen and commented on as too violent, too degrading to the woman, too exploitative, too mancentric, and, well, too GROSS. I mean all that gagging and retching and slobbering and spit-stringing… kind of not that glamorous. And the guy behind the camera, looking down at the lady (in POV scenes) and going, “Yeah, bitch, suck it” can be a little disconcerting. On the other hand, different strokes for different folks and all that being considered, there’s certainly nothing WRONG with hardcore gagging blowjobs if both parties are really enjoying it. But it can still be a little off-putting.
But now here I am watching ciswomen giving blowjobs ciswomen (there are all kinds of sexuality and gender classifications going on over here, so I’m gonna just be general) wearing strap-ons cocks, and I’m seeing a whole lot of the SAME STUFF as in a straight, somewhat exploitative, mainstream, gonzo, POV shoot. It’s confusing. But it’s making me think.
Am I really so shallow that I tend to see the cock ministrations of straight women in straight sex scenes, vomit-inducing as they often appear to be, as a product of male aggression being forced upon subordinate women? Or do more people just like extreme blowjobs than I imagined? Or are queer performers just as influenced by mainstream porn aesthetics and extremes as everybody else? Or are queer performers, given they’re already living on the fringe of acceptability in not only the real world, but also the porn world, more given to kinky and extreme sex acts in the first place? I’ve heard women say that they like to gag on cocks because it pushes their bodies to their limits, and that is an empowering and sexy feeling, but I’ve also heard women say that gagging on a cock makes them feel like less of a person. I do understand that preferences in the bedroom vary just as much from person to person as do food preferences, and that some people enjoy giving spit-flinging, gasping, choking blowjobs while others just don’t enjoy the experience, but I still can’t help wondering when this phenomenon became so ubiquitous in pornography, and whether mainstream porn had more to do with it than personal preferences. Would people have learned that more viscous spit is produced when the gag reflex is tapped if they hadn’t seen Deep Throat in 1972? Or were they using it long before that, but too afraid to show it on the screen?
Hm… Must consider this question and start interviewing people who know more than I do…
Conflicted Exxistence