Tag: assault
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#metoo Thoughts and Exhaustion
When the #metoo hashtag began after the outing of Hollywood titan Harvey Weinstein as a serial, and apparently unrepentant, sexual predator, I added my voice to the growing tidal wave. I’ve been sexually assaulted numerous times, harassed, catcalled, objectified…you know, the usual. I’ve done a lot of work around forgiving myself for the worst instances…
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It’s Scary to Write About Some Things…
…but I wrote about them anyway, scary as they are. **Trigger warnings all up in this biz.** In the wake of the many allegations of rape, assault, and misconduct leveled against James Deen in recent weeks (as of my last count, there are now eleven women who say he violated their consent on and off…
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I Stand with Stoya, and All Rape Victims
Well. Good Monday-after-Thanksgiving, everybody. I suppose. I took a few days off the Internet over the holiday to spend time with family, and when I came back… Basically I need to learn that taking time away from the Internet is deeply relaxing, but coming back is a horrifying experience every time. Case in point: This…
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But Seriously, Why IS Nobody Talking About Cytherea?
Cytherea, I am a feminist…I am so deeply, deeply sorry about what happened to you, and I am even more sorry that the way I learned about it was by way of hateful groups of people who seek to leverage your experience to support their personal politics.
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Christy Mack: Thoughts And Upsetness and Bravery
I am grateful to Christy Mack for having the courage to speak up and bravely show photos of the results of her assault–so often these kinds of domestic attacks happen in the shadows. Women, and all victims of abuse, are often afraid to speak up or have been convinced by the world that it is…
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We Need to Stop Silencing Sexual Assault Victims, Already: A Rant
Please bear with me. I’m having a very large brainstorm and I’m not sure yet if all the loose ends actually tie together. I’m going to try to make sense of all this as I write, because my head and my heart are bursting and I need to get this all written down. I read…
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“Change the world through sex. Because you can.” And other links, too.
Busy week, y’all! Networking lunches being scheduled, art under way for two book projects, a new movie idea proposal being drafted, editing a short story and a kids’ book, and still working on an article for possible mainstream publication about the porn industry. So little time for thinking and writing here! Sooooo more links to…
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A Rant
I had a conversation last week with Anna B. Volk about America’s fascination with understanding bad guys. It started with my fears about the upcoming live-action movie about Maleficent, the villainess from Sleeping Beauty. I’ve been a fan of Maleficent since I was a child because she was one of the only kids-movie villains that…
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Thinking About Consent Again: What’s the Best Model for Porn?
A Newsweek article I read today about male-male rape in the military (seriously, only click on that link if you’re in a pleasant frame of mind; if you start out unhappy, you’ll end it wanting to go out and hurt someone) got me thinking about issues of sexual consent, and human ugliness, and how it…
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Today in News That is Heartbreaking and Heartwarming All at Once
I can’t belIEVE we’re still talking about this, you guys. I have exciting news to share about a film panel I attended last night, but first, to continue the round-up of ridiculous and frightening and amazing news about sexual issues from around the world… Today’s installment! 1) The White House has called for the immediate…