| September 18, 2014 | 5:44 pm

I got so excited when I got it home that I started taking pictures. In hindsight, this was silly because the lighting was terrible, but you know what? I don’t care. You’re lookin’ at ‘em!

Look at that sexy cover!

Look at that sexy cover!

I’m just squirming with glee over here to see this article in print, and to be part of such a fabulous publication! The rest of this issue looks amazing–I haven’t been able to sit down and read it yet, but there are articles on the invisibility of fat women’s sexuality (to which I’d refer people to my article, which includes quotes from many body-positive pornographers), the little-discussed realm of sexuality in online roleplaying games, and much more. continue →

| September 11, 2014 | 9:05 pm

About a year and a half ago, I was in Toronto for the 2013 Feminist Porn Awards. I’d recently interviewed Cindy Gallop about the launch of her site MakeLoveNotPorn.tv, and she’d told me about the many hurdles she and her team had faced while dealing with finances for the project. I’d been flabbergasted and how difficult they had found it get a great idea like MakeLoveNotPorn off the ground, due mainly to the reticence of financial institutions to go touch adult content with a foot-long… pole. (Heh. See, that was almost a dirty joke. Get it?)

So, at the FPAs, I started talking to some people I know who make indie/feminist/queer porn about their experiences. Not surprisingly, continue →

| September 8, 2014 | 8:49 pm

I’m imagining the hackers responsible are standing ~100 yards to the right.

What is it about nudity that tantalizes us so? In the wake of “Celebgate,” I’ve been thinking a lot about our cultural obsession with naked bodies we weren’t asked to look at. We fixate on them. We can’t get enough. Why?

Is it because we’ve become so detached from our own bodies that the sight of them in their natural state is now equal in our minds with sex? Because, let’s face it, our bodies do a lot every day that has nothing to do with sex. And those bodies, with their pubic hair and nipples and skin and genitals, are with us all the time that we’re doing non-sexy things. Under our clothes, hiding. While we sit at our desks or eat lunch or make phone calls or do laundry or whatever. They’re not being sexual most of the time when they’re clothed, and they’re not even being sexual lots of times when they’re naked–like in the shower and when we sleep naked (which many of us do, right?).

So these bodies we live in, literally every second of our lives (except in dreams, I suppose, and the occasional out-of-body experience)… How did we get so mentally separated from them that when we see them, we go berserk? Why is it such a big deal to all of us? continue →

| September 4, 2014 | 12:30 pm

Apologies, my lovely darling crumpets, for not writing you brilliant new blog posts more often! I am in the process of trying to find a new apartment in New York City, which anybody who makes less than a million dollars a year can tell you is pretty much the equivalent of running around screaming and waving your hands in the air for a thirty day period, questioning your fiscal responsibility and general fitness as a human being, losing sleep over the possible drawbacks of that perfect apartment you just viewed, lusting after backyard space, and pretty much losing your damn mind. Not to mention all of your free time for a solid month.

So basically don’t expect a whole lot of original material at this juncture, mmkay? I’m busy.

But I’m still doing stuff!

Like the podcast I’m featured in at Bitch Media! continue →

| August 29, 2014 | 3:17 pm

On top of apartment hunting, conducting burlesque performer interviews for Luna Luna (more on that soon!), working full time, and doing a freelance editing project… this week I did some other stuff you can check out online!

Image: Willi White1) I interviewed Angel White Eyes, an “photographer, an artist, and activist for the Lakota people” about the production studio she and her friend Willi White have just started, Indigene, and about their upcoming short film, “The People” for Luna Luna! You should absolutely read it, and go help fund “The People” at the IndieGoGo campaign page!

A snippet:

“We talked about how much the media comes into Pine Ridge and shares these sad stories and poverty porn about Pine Ridge, and how I wanted to do something that showed how beautiful Pine Ridge is. Instead of showing the hardships that people see, show them all the good things about Pine Ridge.”


2) And oh my gosh. I’m so nervous to put this out there, but hey, it’s a big deal: I was interviewed by the Bitch Media podcast, “Popcast,” for their “Hello, Feminist Porn!” episode, along with the incomparable Jiz Lee, artist Jess Fink, and gaming journalist Katherine Cross.

I discussed financing feminist pornography, and read a segment of my article in the upcoming Love/Lust edition of the magazine (due out in September).

Go! Listen! Enjoy!

| August 26, 2014 | 9:59 pm

I’ve been thinking about what happened to Christy Mack, particularly with regard to what obviously turned into a toxic relationship with her ex-boyfriend/”suitcase pimp,” War Machine. I never met Christy Mack or War Machine, so I can’t speak personally about the nature of their relationship. However, some observations Aurora Snow made in her Daily Beast article about it got me pondering the little-known and rarely discussed phenomenon of the “suitcase pimp” in the mainstream adult industry.

First of all, please understand that I am NOT in any way suggesting that a suitcase pimp is synonymous with violence or abuse. I’m sure that there are as many variations on the relationship between adult star and suitcase pimp as there are individual relationships. But I want to just talk about how this all works, and how this might have happened, for those of you who don’t know about “suitcase pimps.”

Imagine for a moment that you are an actress in mainstream pornographic films. That you make most or all of your living on your adult film work. It’s a demanding job. As often as possible, you book continue →

| August 23, 2014 | 12:30 pm

Well this week’s return to the world has been pretty tough on me, so here are some awesome, bizarre, ultra-bizarre, and heh-worthy links and videos for you to enjoy and feel less-serious about as you sip coffee in the nude on your fire escape this weekend.

I mean. That’s what you do on weekends, right? It’s what I do on weekends…


1) Awesome: So the documentary about Kink.com that James Franco produced (called Kink)? Looks freaking amazing. I’m not a big fan of The Franco, mostly because I’m sick of him making me look bad for not doing All The Things All The Time, but I can get behind this. Mega behind it. With a whip.

2) Bizarre: This happened a while ago, but I just heard about it: a Japanese artist who has allegedly been selling detailed plans for making 3D-printed renditions of her vulva to her fans was arrested on obscenity charges. continue →

| August 22, 2014 | 10:32 pm

Christy Mack before the attack

Another thing I learned about when I returned from my vacation in the wilderness? Christy Mack was beaten nearly to death by her ex-boyfriend, War Machine. The MMA fighter found his adult star ex-girlfriend with another man at her own home when he arrived unannounced and unexpected in the middle of the night, and left her with 18 broken bones, stab wounds, numerous lost teeth, an injured liver, and many, many bruises after forcing her to undress and shower, threatening (but thankfully finding himself unable) to rape her, and cutting off her hair.

He has since been apprehended and is in police custody. Thank goodness.

And the news cycles on, with trails of comments blaming Mack for the assault in its wake.

I can’t even articulate my feelings of sorrow for her and outrage about what people have said about her. I’m so tired of it. So bone weary from hearing women getting blamed for being victimized in this world continue →

| August 21, 2014 | 1:03 am

My feels when I reconnected with the world.

So I went to Montana for ten days. It was amazing. I had a blast. And my tablet screen broke so I couldn’t use it at all, and I had zero cell reception and only the spottiest WiFi capabilities, so I was pretty much incommunicado the entire time. I didn’t even realize taht there were places in the continental U.S. that remote at this point, but there are! And that is Not a Bad Thing! I’m glad I was able to unplug for a while–I definitely needed it.

But now I’m back, and WOW, world, did you ever wind up to punch me square in the face when I stepped off that plane at JFK. For the love of Jiminy Cricket. Holy crap.

First of all, Ferguson. What. Is. Going. On. In this country?!?! I really can’t even begin continue →

| August 6, 2014 | 6:00 pm

I’m off for a two-week-ish vacation in the Wild West, y’all! I wish I’d had time to prep some blog posts for while I’m gone, but alas, there is never enough time for all the things I want to do. However, while I’m on vacation, hopefully I’ll have some brilliant insights I can blog about when I return.

For now, leave me some love while I’m away and I’ll see you when I get back!

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