Category: Musings
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No Safe Word: kinky nude dance performance art f*cking awesomeness
The stories told in “No Safe Word” aren’t just strange or entertaining anecdotes, they are representations of real people’s search for acceptance. No matter how strange they may seem to us on the outside, we all know from whence they come: our deepest, most vulnerable beating hearts.
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Luna Luna: When Pleasure Is Elusive… Or Nonexistent
I counseled someone who wrote to me terrified that she might be incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure. I gave her a whole list of possible reasons for her problem, ranging from medical issues to fetishes to anatomical differences, and I pointed out some paths for exploring in the hopes of remedying the situation.
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Scaling Back: goals for blogging in 2015
And so it’s with a heavy heart, but with much hope, that I’m announcing my cutback on blogging for 2015.
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Bring it, 2015: some things I’d like to do this year
I was sitting here in my room trying to meditate and set my intentions for the coming year, like a good new age hippie witch type, and this guy decided that he really needed to park his Hyundai sedan (I know, right?) out in front of my building and open the doors and play obnoxious…
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Mid-Week Musings: feminist sci-fi, new music videos, toplessness, and Nina Hartley
The past few weeks I’ve been absolutely overwhelmed by all of the stuff that’s pertinent to this blog, and that’s a great thing! There are a lot of very public conversations going on about things that are important to me, mostly in the arena of sex-positivity, body-positivity, street harassment, and feminism in general. Hooray!
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My New Neighbor (likes to be naked by her window, and I’m conflicted about it)
She continued walking around her apartment for a good twenty minutes in various states of undress…I was mesmerized the entire time. I let myself think that she had seen me watching her, and it’s entirely possible that she did, at some point…But… I don’t have her explicit consent, you guys! Am I being a bad…
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Pre-Halloween Ponderings on Humpday
Sometimes we don’t care if our appearance is acceptable to you. Sometimes we just want to be left alone. And that does not make us “bitchy.”
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Quick Thoughts on Pop Culture from Your Grumpy Neighborhood Feminist
A few big pop culture items have crossed my radar this week, which is remarkable given that I’ve been sick and grumpy and menstruating and it’s cold and rainy outside. Frankly, I think it’s marvelous that I’ve managed to do anything aside from eat Doritos in sweatpants and watch Supernatural, marathon style, on Netflix. Some…
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New York Comic Con: Post 2 — Boobs are OK, but not BOOBS
What is it that makes the display of the female body for consumption permissible, so long as nipples and pubic hair are not specifically shown? Why is it that women’s bodies can be sexual, so long as they’re never shown actually having sex? Why can’t we own our bodies and do what we want to…
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I Went to New York Comic Con, and All I Got Were These Observations
I’d like to think this guy recognized me from my feminist blogging online persona, but something about his behavior makes me think he was just too much of a creep to enjoy taking permission-granted photos of cosplayers. I think he got a thrill out of taking unwitting, non-consensual photos of con attendees who weren’t in…