Today on Luna Luna, I counseled someone who wrote to me terrified that she might be incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure. I gave her a whole list of possible reasons for her problem, ranging from medical issues to fetishes to anatomical differences, and I pointed out some paths for exploring in the hopes of remedying the situation. (There’s also this amazing painting [above] which is my new favorite!)
“I totally want you to be able to have as much sexual pleasure as possible in your life, and I hope that you can get it soon! But the main thing is to try to be patient with yourself and your body. Don’t put too much pressure on orgasms. Don’t stress out if you can help it. The one thing that pleasure and orgasms hate more than anything else—and I mean anything—is stress! Actually, now that I mention it, the one thing that your entire body and soul hate more than anything is stress. So do your best to listen to what your body and your mind want, and try to help yourself get those things.”
Read the rest at Luna Luna, and share any insights you might have with this unfortunate person in the comments there!