Dr. Lags, Sexpert (totally not a doctor)

I talk to two letter writers who are trying to get back in touch with their sensual sides, one of whom "loses interest" in dirty deeds, and another who, after a lifetime of sexual violence, manipulation, fear, and shame, has rediscovered her wild side through erotic literature. [...continue...]

I counseled someone who wrote to me terrified that she might be incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure. I gave her a whole list of possible reasons for her problem, ranging from medical issues to fetishes to anatomical differences, and I pointed out some paths for exploring in the hopes of remedying the situation. [...continue...]

I’ve just accepted a new writing gig, as a sex advice columnist for LUNA LUNA mag. Super psyched, because LUNA LUNA is a publication for grrrls who wear black nailpolish and engage in intellectual debate, who love getting all dark and writing/reading about stuff  “like malaise and nail [...continue...]

Dear WHACK! My girlfriend has a really tight vagina. It feels great for me, but when we start having sex she almost always says it hurts. How can we have sex without pain? —Don’t Want to Hurt Her Dear DWHH, Two words, my friend: foreplay and lube. Despite what you often see in porn, most women [...continue...]

Dear WHACK! I got drunk at a party while my wife was away and ended up sleeping with one of her best friends. We had a great time but there has been no emotional entanglement afterward. We both just feel awful about what we did, but we don’t know how to tell my wife without her thinking there’s [...continue...]

Dear WHACK! This is going to sound really weird, but I have to tell someone about it because I just don’t know what to do. I’m in a great relationship with a fantastic guy. He’s sweet, thoughtful, respectful, and pretty much every woman’s dream. We’ve been together for a while and we have [...continue...]

Dear WHACK! Sometimes, when boyfriend is eating me out really good or when he’s fucking me from behind… I squirt everywhere! I know it’s supposed to be “cool” and whatever, cause I know girls in porn do it all the time, but I get really embarrassed when it happens. It’s a LOT of stuff [...continue...]

Where did the whole milk phenomenon in porn come from? Pouring it over a woman’s ass, squirting it into her orifices… I must have missed the memo explaining the whys behind it. Personally, I think it just gets in the way of the fuckin’. – Lactose Intolerant Dear Lactaid [...continue...]

I got this question the other day on Twitter: @MissLagsalot does size matter? Well. That’s a hell of a simple question. But the answer is so not simple. And hey, if you ask ME a question do you REALLY expect it to have anything like a short answer? If so, you’re sadly misled. The answer [...continue...]

This is an issue that probably plagues a lot of people these days; with jobs hard to come by and usually low-paying when they materialize, more people than ever living in cities, and everybody being so damn sexy. Most of us are living with at least one roommate, and unless you’re incredibly [...continue...]