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It's only natural that my blog is awash with fresh new links to nurture your weekend reading needs! I 10/10 would recommend that you read any and all of the following. [...continue...]

"Watching Porn," my half-memoir, half-informative-book-about-the-adult-industry, won the gold medal (top honors!) in the Sexuality/Relationships category in the Independent Book Publishers Awards, or IPPYs! [...continue...]

I've got two new articles now in MEL Magazine that anybody with a pulse will enjoy! (Well. Okay. MOST people with pulses. I hate to generalize.) Let's talk about porn in India (or lack thereof) and anal sex! Yeehaw! [...continue...]

"We are so, so lucky to live in a time when sex toys are experiencing kind of a renaissance. A sexy enlightenment, if you will. There are more companies starting all the time, releasing more products at every turn, cooking up creative new ways to make every body feel fantastic! You have a huge variety of "adult novelties," as they like to say, to choose from. So vast is the pool of pleasure products that it can get a little overwhelming. So let’s start with the easy stuff." [...continue...]

I encouraged self-examination, self-pleasure, and Ilana Glazer. Cause duh. [...continue...]

I talk to two letter writers who are trying to get back in touch with their sensual sides, one of whom "loses interest" in dirty deeds, and another who, after a lifetime of sexual violence, manipulation, fear, and shame, has rediscovered her wild side through erotic literature. [...continue...]

I counseled someone who wrote to me terrified that she might be incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure. I gave her a whole list of possible reasons for her problem, ranging from medical issues to fetishes to anatomical differences, and I pointed out some paths for exploring in the hopes of remedying the situation. [...continue...]

I have to admit, this one threw me a bit. But I'm glad the question came in. Otherwise I would likely have gone through my entire life without contemplating: How does one ask one's professional service provider to remove her bra before letting you toe her tits? [...continue...]

In the meantime, eat some cookies, drink some eggnog or cider or hot chocolate, stop worrying about your calorie intake, watch schmaltzy movies, hang out with your loved ones, and be merry! Focus on love and respect and being a good human being. We need as many of them as we can get right now. [...continue...]

Christmas lights in my glasses! This week has gotten me so far behind on all the things! Christmas is great, but like woah. So much to catch up on! In the meantime, y’all… two things: 1) I published a sex/realtionship advice column over at Luna Luna Magazine the other day! This [...continue...]