sex advice

You may know that I'm a relentless optimist. Particularly when it comes to writing about sex and sex work, I'm especially upbeat. Especially in times like these, when there's so much trying to divide us, I think the unity and happiness of sex are more important than ever. So, you won't be surprised by the upbeat attitude behind the articles I wrote for Glamour and MEL, and the interview I did with Sex City Radio. [...continue...]

This week I had three—count 'em, three—articles published at MEL Magazine. I basically took over the magazine, and you know what? I kinda liked it. This week saw the beginning of two new series: one about Porn Around the World and one pairing sex experts with "normal" folks in search of advice. [...continue...]

It's Tuesday! And it's lunch time! Seems like a perfect opportunity to take a break with your favorite glam beverages and do some glam Internet reading and viewing, n'est ce pas? Especially content about feminism, sexuality, porn stars, and empowerment! SO GLAM. [...continue...]

I encouraged self-examination, self-pleasure, and Ilana Glazer. Cause duh. [...continue...]

I talk to two letter writers who are trying to get back in touch with their sensual sides, one of whom "loses interest" in dirty deeds, and another who, after a lifetime of sexual violence, manipulation, fear, and shame, has rediscovered her wild side through erotic literature. [...continue...]

I counseled someone who wrote to me terrified that she might be incapable of experiencing sexual pleasure. I gave her a whole list of possible reasons for her problem, ranging from medical issues to fetishes to anatomical differences, and I pointed out some paths for exploring in the hopes of remedying the situation. [...continue...]

I have to admit, this one threw me a bit. But I'm glad the question came in. Otherwise I would likely have gone through my entire life without contemplating: How does one ask one's professional service provider to remove her bra before letting you toe her tits? [...continue...]

Last selfie of 2014? Maybe! Hello, my beautiful wintertime darlings! As 2014 draws to a close, everybody is doing Facebook posts and blog entries about their year in review. I was grumpy at first and was all, “My 2014 was dumb. I’m not writing one of those.”Because this year has [...continue...]

There's a new sex advice column up on Luna Luna by none other than moi! This time around, it's less advice-y and more here-are-some-facts-y. [...continue...]

Bitch Magazine, Issue #64 Apologies, my lovely darling crumpets, for not writing you brilliant new blog posts more often! I am in the process of trying to find a new apartment in New York City, which anybody who makes less than a million dollars a year can tell you is pretty much the equivalent of [...continue...]